Guest Posted February 20, 2019 Share Posted February 20, 2019 Some people seem to love conflict. Others avoid it. Personally I try to avoid it. Even on the internet I don't like to argue. Probably avoid it to much at times and probably don't stick up for myself enough at times. So what are you like with conflict? Do you avoid it? Do you like it? Or you just argue when necessary? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Devil-Dick Willie 3,253 Posted February 21, 2019 Share Posted February 21, 2019 Conflict is the spice of life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spike 5,099 Posted February 21, 2019 Share Posted February 21, 2019 What do you think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beelzebub 2,508 Posted February 21, 2019 Share Posted February 21, 2019 that comes under last time you had a fight thread Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrator Stan 18,364 Posted February 21, 2019 Administrator Share Posted February 21, 2019 I avoid it where possible. Gotta keep my head when it comes to my job and in general I'm just a really laid back person. Takes a lot to anger me or get me riled up to the point where I'll retaliate or get involved in conflict. Total contrast to how I was as a kid - very short fuse, temperamental and argumentative, over the pettiest things at the least. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kyletoonfan 24 Posted February 21, 2019 Share Posted February 21, 2019 I try and avoid it as much as possible though in security you may get it at some points so you obviously cannot run away from it at home though definitely avoid it at all costs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Large 141 Posted February 21, 2019 Share Posted February 21, 2019 Completely depends on the situation. I’ll avoid it if I don’t think a specific issue will benefit from it, but not because I don’t like to be involved in conflict. I actually enjoy it sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subscriber CaaC (John)+ 5,358 Posted February 21, 2019 Subscriber Share Posted February 21, 2019 I am too old for conflict nowadays but when I was younger and fitter I would face up to any conflict that came my way and deal with it, I bought my kids up by saying walking away from conflict is far better than dealing with it but if someone lashed out first then retaliate. I remember our son saying to me when he was 14 and at high-school down in England where I had got a job "Pops...I smacked [punched] a laddie at school today", I asked him what was it all about and he said "He was calling me names and trying to get me to fight him but I remember what you told me, that you are more of a man if you turn around and walk away unless the person hit out first...well I did walk away but he came up behind me, and hit me on the back of the head and called me a Scottish bastard so I turned around and punched him to the ground", all I said was "that's ok then, you did not start the trouble first". The funny thing about that incident was my son and the laddie he punched became best of friends and still contact each other today and he even came up to our son's wedding 10 years ago, I called that incident in my son's life learning the lessons of life in growing up when you are young, I have been through all that when I was a kid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rab 1,294 Posted February 21, 2019 Share Posted February 21, 2019 Conflict requires too much energy. The less drama in my life the better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Artful Dodger 1,831 Posted February 21, 2019 Share Posted February 21, 2019 No, I'm fairly belligerent but would like to be less so. Just nearly everyone and everything irritates me in some way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 21, 2019 Share Posted February 21, 2019 3 hours ago, The Artful Dodger said: No, I'm fairly belligerent but would like to be less so. Just nearly everyone and everything irritates me in some way. Its funny you don't come across like that on here at all Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subscriber Pyfish+ 2,773 Posted February 21, 2019 Subscriber Share Posted February 21, 2019 6 hours ago, Rab said: Conflict requires too much energy. The less drama in my life the better. This is me. I like to lead as much a drama-free life as I can. Never been one for conflict at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Cannabis Posted February 21, 2019 Share Posted February 21, 2019 I'm very laid back, pretty much horizontal so as a result don't really get into conflict. I do stand up for myself though so on the rare occasion that I am pushed and pushed there will be a reaction. I can't remember the last time I went absolutely "on one" though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inverted 1,776 Posted February 21, 2019 Share Posted February 21, 2019 I avoid arguments like the plague 95% of the time then 5% of the time I pick stupid moments to stir shit up or lose my temper completely. Probably not the most healthy system. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subscriber Dan+ 1,915 Posted February 21, 2019 Subscriber Share Posted February 21, 2019 Avoid it because a lot of the time, what truly is the point? What am I going to achieve? I'd rather not sour relationships over petty shit. Although when you've crossed a line I'll produce conflict that likely means we don't talk again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MUFC 1,495 Posted February 21, 2019 Share Posted February 21, 2019 13 hours ago, Stan said: I avoid it where possible. Gotta keep my head when it comes to my job and in general I'm just a really laid back person. Takes a lot to anger me or get me riled up to the point where I'll retaliate or get involved in conflict. Total contrast to how I was as a kid - very short fuse, temperamental and argumentative, over the pettiest things at the least. Sounds about right, when younger you are also much braver. As you get older, you either grow out of it, generally just mature or have much more to lose which helps you to walk away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Gonzo 8,177 Posted February 22, 2019 Share Posted February 22, 2019 On 21/02/2019 at 00:16, Large said: Completely depends on the situation. I’ll avoid it if I don’t think a specific issue will benefit from it, but not because I don’t like to be involved in conflict. I actually enjoy it sometimes. This. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rick 2,271 Posted February 22, 2019 Share Posted February 22, 2019 Avoid it mostly. Not scared of getting into it and voicing my opinion but most the time I just let things go cause I don't want the drama of it all. Most things can be resolved without petty arguments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluewolf 7,161 Posted February 22, 2019 Share Posted February 22, 2019 On 21/02/2019 at 08:16, Large said: Completely depends on the situation. I’ll avoid it if I don’t think a specific issue will benefit from it, but not because I don’t like to be involved in conflict. I actually enjoy it sometimes. Totally depends on what people consider to be conflict? As you say if no good will come of it then don't bother but you can also have a healthy conflict in the work place for example where I might 'challenge' another persons view on something and that could be considered by them as conflict... I am not keen on people who just throw random stuff in to the mix with no justification or reasoning behind it so I am more than happy to challenge that thought process if I think someone is just looking for a quick fix or is just being plain stupid or lazy... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subscriber RandoEFC+ 7,644 Posted February 23, 2019 Subscriber Share Posted February 23, 2019 I enjoy low stakes conflict as I enjoy a good debate but in terms of awkward or confrontational types of conflict I tend to do just about anything to steer clear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Gonzo 8,177 Posted February 23, 2019 Share Posted February 23, 2019 19 hours ago, Bluewolf said: Totally depends on what people consider to be conflict? As you say if no good will come of it then don't bother but you can also have a healthy conflict in the work place for example where I might 'challenge' another persons view on something and that could be considered by them as conflict... I am not keen on people who just throw random stuff in to the mix with no justification or reasoning behind it so I am more than happy to challenge that thought process if I think someone is just looking for a quick fix or is just being plain stupid or lazy... Sometimes you’ve got to stand up for yourself if a mechanic is overcharging and you know they’re overcharging. Sometimes you’ve got to let a friend know they’re about to do something incredibly fucking stupid. Sometimes you have to “challenge” those opinions at work as you said. I think that’s all conflict that’s worth the effort because it’s got purpose behind it. Pointless drama is just starting shit for the sake of starting shit and reveling in the ensuing drama. Some people love that. Those people are usually dickheads though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vegan Kel 172 Posted February 25, 2019 Share Posted February 25, 2019 It depends what you mean by conflict really. I think it's more a case of 'pick your battles' as you get older because who wants to be constantly rowing or bickering over trivialities? But on the other hand, it's very important to have self respect, to stand up for yourself and your loved ones and to stick to your prinicples. There are plenty of things worth getting into conflict over but a lot more that really aren't Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 25, 2019 Share Posted February 25, 2019 16 hours ago, Salford Kel said: It depends what you mean by conflict really. I think it's more a case of 'pick your battles' as you get older because who wants to be constantly rowing or bickering over trivialities? But on the other hand, it's very important to have self respect, to stand up for yourself and your loved ones and to stick to your prinicples. There are plenty of things worth getting into conflict over but a lot more that really aren't Overall you do seem to be much less confrontational than you use to be? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MUFC 1,495 Posted June 12, 2021 Share Posted June 12, 2021 As you get older it should wear off. For myself I walk away and can't be arsed with it anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy Blue 1,897 Posted June 12, 2021 Share Posted June 12, 2021 Have to say i never get any hassle in real life to get into a conflict Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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