Bluewolf Posted June 16, 2019 Share Posted June 16, 2019 I was First Born and the list is fairly accurate to be honest.. not so much with the Bossy or Controlling, be a Boss when you need to be and Control what needs controlling but not all the time... pretty easy going most of the time.. And You???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subscriber Mel81x+ Posted June 16, 2019 Subscriber Share Posted June 16, 2019 Pretty accurate except I don't look good in a dress. (middle-born btw) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subscriber CaaC (John)+ Posted June 16, 2019 Subscriber Share Posted June 16, 2019 I would imagine I am in this category as my mum had 9 kiddies, 7 girls and me and my youngest brother so I was number 7 that popped out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nudge Posted June 16, 2019 Share Posted June 16, 2019 Don't think I'm manipulative; the rest is fairly accurate... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluebird Hewitt Posted June 16, 2019 Share Posted June 16, 2019 I can tell you that I don't fit most of that lost (First born). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluewolf Posted June 16, 2019 Author Share Posted June 16, 2019 1 hour ago, Mel81x said: Pretty accurate except I don't look good in a dress. (middle-born btw) To be able to say that must mean you have tried one on at some point I assume.. ?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subscriber Mel81x+ Posted June 16, 2019 Subscriber Share Posted June 16, 2019 2 minutes ago, Bluewolf said: To be able to say that must mean you have tried one on at some point I assume.. ?? Guilty as charged. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrator Stan Posted June 16, 2019 Administrator Share Posted June 16, 2019 22 minutes ago, nudge said: Don't think I'm manipulative; the rest is fairly accurate... Same. Or attention-seeking or outgoing. I'd say everyone has a bit of self-centred nature to them. No-one is truly selfless. Not sure all the descriptions are be all and end all, mind. You can be a first-born and still be any one of the others and vice versa for the rest of them... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nudge Posted June 16, 2019 Share Posted June 16, 2019 3 minutes ago, Stan said: Same. Or attention-seeking or outgoing. I'd say everyone has a bit of self-centred nature to them. No-one is truly selfless. Not sure all the descriptions are be all and end all, mind. You can be a first-born and still be any one of the others and vice versa for the rest of them... Ha things like that are pretty much pop-science and just a bit of fun... as for actual research, there's no significant effect of birth order on personality although it's likely that there might be a link between it and certain behavioural trends. I think it was Alfred Adler who suggested that if the age gap between the children is five years or more, those categories do not apply anymore and each of them might as well be considered as firstborn or the only child. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subscriber Mel81x+ Posted June 16, 2019 Subscriber Share Posted June 16, 2019 3 minutes ago, nudge said: I think it was Alfred Adler who suggested that if the age gap between the children is five years or more, those categories do not apply anymore and each of them might as well be considered as firstborn or the only child. This now has me searching for the research paper to see why this is potentially true. Is it just that the gap is so wide that parents resort to using initial behavior with the younger offspring or that the older sibling has a more controlled approach to the younger one? For anyone that is interested in reading it or getting started on Personality psyche - https://sites.google.com/site/psychologyofpersonalityperiod8/home/psychodynamic-theories/adler-s-personality-theory Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderator Tommy Posted June 16, 2019 Moderator Share Posted June 16, 2019 Only child here and nah. Sensitive maybe... maybe a lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subscriber CaaC (John)+ Posted June 16, 2019 Subscriber Share Posted June 16, 2019 'Can be rebellious' Maybe stubborn as my wife and daughter would say but not rebellious, if my mind is set on something then it stays that way, I don't like Birthdays and I could not care less if I receive a Birthday card or not and as for celebrations on my Birthday then it's a big NO from me, a few cards and maybe a couple of presents from the grandsons will make my day at the given time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nudge Posted June 16, 2019 Share Posted June 16, 2019 1 hour ago, Mel81x said: This now has me searching for the research paper to see why this is potentially true. Is it just that the gap is so wide that parents resort to using initial behavior with the younger offspring or that the older sibling has a more controlled approach to the younger one? For anyone that is interested in reading it or getting started on Personality psyche - https://sites.google.com/site/psychologyofpersonalityperiod8/home/psychodynamic-theories/adler-s-personality-theory Adler and his theories were a part of the curriculum at uni but that was years ago and definitely not very in-depth so no idea... But I'd guess that it's both as a significant sibling spacing surely influences the relationship dynamics as well as parental behaviour towards the offspring. Granted I personally don't think that it's true (5 year age gap as a cutoff). I only liked Adler because he seemed more normal than Freud haha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subscriber CaaC (John)+ Posted June 16, 2019 Subscriber Share Posted June 16, 2019 15 minutes ago, nudge said: I only liked Adler because he seemed more normal than Freud haha. Freud > Fraud? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eco Posted June 17, 2019 Share Posted June 17, 2019 4 hours ago, nudge said: Ha things like that are pretty much pop-science and just a bit of fun... as for actual research, there's no significant effect of birth order on personality although it's likely that there might be a link between it and certain behavioural trends. I think it was Alfred Adler who suggested that if the age gap between the children is five years or more, those categories do not apply anymore and each of them might as well be considered as firstborn or the only child. So I'm an only child then! Sister is 39, I'm 33, and my youngest sister is 9. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azeem Posted June 17, 2019 Share Posted June 17, 2019 Adaptive and independent - True People pleasure - Hell no, my parents weren't exactly the greatest at encouraging/appretiate when i did things at school i.e winning competitions, sports. That left a mark on me don't care about anyone else at all now. Can be rebellious - Who isn't ? Feels left out - True and I'm really sometimes Peacemaker and Social - peacemaker when it comes to family and close friends and though i can confidently say I'm popular in my social circles but i consider myself unsocial for the most part Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Gonzo Posted June 17, 2019 Share Posted June 17, 2019 I'm a middle child, don't know how I feel about their description not sure if it's 100% accurate. And the ones that are are general traits that people always want to see in themselves... so that doesn't really mean much Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nudge Posted June 17, 2019 Share Posted June 17, 2019 9 hours ago, CaaC (John) said: Freud > Fraud? It's more complicated than that but more or less yes. He did contribute to 20th century thought and psychology/psychiatry significantly, but essentially most of his work and theories are just non-falsifiable pseudoscience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MUFC Posted June 17, 2019 Share Posted June 17, 2019 Am first born but I 100% ain't bossy, controlling or cautious. I think they create a list knowing you will have a few of the attributes, and the odd person may have most or all of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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