I am trying to sort a few things out to give us a break where I can just for our own sanity... just so much going on it's proving to be more difficult than I thought.. funny enough I was talking to my sister only this week and she asked how things were because her partner had noticed that I was a bit under the weather and not my normal self the last time they were up so we had a chat about a few things and she said we were always welcome to go stay with them for a bit if we needed a break, she does not have kids herself and when she sees all the stuff we are going through with ours and the grandchildren she is fine keeping it that way..
Strange really, I always thought that later in life the kids would have been all grown up and flown the nest like my eldest son has and yet we still have 3 and now we have their children in tow as well... it's just constant every day and I know it can't be good, I was always hoping that by now me an the other half would have been free to enjoy ourselves a bit more and pursue things we might like but it's not panning out like that at all... I mean we have had Leelah living with us for over 4 years now and now we have Mia as well and we have had one holiday for 5 days in that whole time where it was just me and the missus...
Now I am not an over emotional type person or anything by any stretch but it's clear to me that I am not the same person I was a year ago, my outlook has been less positive and if you knew me personally you might find that hard to believe because on the outside I always come across with the same passion and enthusiasm I always have but inside I feel like all the positives are just slowly ebbing away bit by bit and it's changing me... I even had one of my team come up to me and ask if I was ok only yesterday which is worrying... I have always been good at keeping the home/work thing separate but if it's becoming obvious to my team as well that something is up I can't ignore that, I told him I appreciated him asking but I was fine and we cracked on..
I will find a way to climb out of this hole because I always have and always will it's just in my nature but it's getting a lot tougher to do than it used to..