As for the bolded parts, both of you underrate the patience the other Eu members have shown towards the UK. I can only speak for the public opinion in Germany but this patience has come to an end. The deal is on the table: take it or leave it, but the Germans are fed up with your attempts at cherry picking and won't agree to new negotiations. Can't speak for the other nations but wouldn't be surprised if they shared our point of view. In my opinion there are only three realistic options for you: no deal, May's deal or remain. I can't imagine the EU to agree to start negotiations all over again, there are more issues to solve for this federation than Brexit only. Neither the world nor the EU revolve around Great Britain.