Mental Health

[Danny]

12 minutes ago, Spike said:

Today I found the letter that was given to my mrs when she went to her ex’s funeral. That in itself isn’t anything upsetting to me but the hypocrisy of it all really cuts me up, and it reminds me of my grandfather’s funeral. People that had left his life, family members estranged, show up for it. I hate it I hate I hate it, they don’t deserve to be here for him in death because they didn’t share his life when it mattered, not even a phone call, and my mrs did the same thing to someone, it infuriates  me people can be so selfish that they can show up for a funeral so they can pat themselves kn the back with their empathy, but they werent so loving nor empathetic in life. It makes me sick thinking of people showing up to my funeral as if they cared about me, it makes me project that resentment, held together for nearly half of my life onto my wife because she is the closest person, despite the fact she didnt really do anything wrong, because of how convicted i feel on this subject. I never feel so alone, angry, and sad as I do when I think of this

 

 

For me and I know it’s a naff cliche but a funeral is for the living, not the dead. Not about being there for someone, just about saying goodbye. If your Mrs felt the need to do that then don’t begrudge her it 

[Spike]

5 minutes ago, Danny said:

For me and I know it’s a naff cliche but a funeral is for the living, not the dead. Not about being there for someone, just about saying goodbye. If your Mrs felt the need to do that then don’t begrudge her it 

cant do it, the scars are too deep. a lot of these people said their goodbyes years ago, they dont get a second go round as if they would have come back into their lives at any point

[nudge]

17 minutes ago, Spike said:

Today I found the letter that was given to my mrs when she went to her ex’s funeral. That in itself isn’t anything upsetting to me but the hypocrisy of it all really cuts me up, and it reminds me of my grandfather’s funeral. People that had left his life, family members estranged, show up for it. I hate it I hate I hate it, they don’t deserve to be here for him in death because they didn’t share his life when it mattered, not even a phone call, and my mrs did the same thing to someone, it infuriates  me people can be so selfish that they can show up for a funeral so they can pat themselves kn the back with their empathy, but they werent so loving nor empathetic in life. It makes me sick thinking of people showing up to my funeral as if they cared about me, it makes me project that resentment, held together for nearly half of my life onto my wife because she is the closest person, despite the fact she didnt really do anything wrong, because of how convicted i feel on this subject. I never feel so alone, angry, and sad as I do when I think of this

I can relate to this since I've seen a few family members put up a hypocritical show during my grandma's funeral despite being total cunts to her while she was alive; they  even managed to somehow make it all about themselves which made my blood boil, but on the other hand, there are numerous reasons why people fall apart and lose contact throughout the years; not all of them are hypocrit twats who deserve to be judged for not being there and then turning up for the funeral... When my grandma died, a lot of her long-lost friends and especially ex-coworkers turned up after hearing about her passing; many of them travelled a long way too. She wasn't in contact with many of them, but I know she would have been very proud of the fact that they still remembered her after all those years and took the time to show up to pay their respects... 

[Spike]

4 minutes ago, nudge said:

I can relate to this since I've seen a few family members put up a hypocritical show during my grandma's funeral despite being total cunts to her while she was alive; they  even managed to somehow make it all about themselves which made my blood boil, but on the other hand, there are numerous reasons why people fall apart and lose contact throughout the years; not all of them are hypocrit twats who deserve to be judged for not being there and then turning up for the funeral... When my grandma died, a lot of her long-lost friends and especially ex-coworkers turned up after hearing about her passing; many of them travelled a long way too. She wasn't in contact with many of them, but I know she would have been very proud of the fact that they still remembered her after all those years and took the time to show up to pay their respects... 

I understand that but their is a difference between drifting apart and literally closing off contact and ending a relationship, which is what my grandfathers brother and family essentially did, and what my mrs did with her ex. it is shallow and selfish, i’d rather have someone that i had an amicable but not so close relationship that drifted away than with someone i have intentionally severed ties with. i am not typically fatalistic but with this i am

[nudge]

1 minute ago, Spike said:

I understand that but their is a difference between drifting apart and literally closing off contact and ending a relationship, which is what my grandfathers brother and family essentially did, and what my mrs did with her ex. it is shallow and selfish, i’d rather have someone that i had an amicable but not so close relationship that drifted away than with someone i have intentionally severed ties with. i am not typically fatalistic but with this i am

Yeah, I agree with you, just saying that maybe in some cases it's more complicated and people still need some closure? I mean, the way I see it, it's still shallow and selfish; I personally wouldn't turn up to a funeral of someone I previously cut ties with either, but we're all wired differently and each situation is different... Maybe there are some unresolved issues or feelings that need to be resolved, and attending the funeral is a way to do it? 

[Azeem]

45 minutes ago, nudge said:

Yeah, I agree with you, just saying that maybe in some cases it's more complicated and people still need some closure? I mean, the way I see it, it's still shallow and selfish; I personally wouldn't turn up to a funeral of someone I previously cut ties with either, but we're all wired differently and each situation is different... Maybe there are some unresolved issues or feelings that need to be resolved, and attending the funeral is a way to do it? 

This. Here it is quite the opposite events like funeral are a way to reconcile and end feuds. I've personally been in some situation myself and it does resolve things for future.

[Carnivore Chris]

On 19/02/2021 at 06:35, Tommy said:

Yeah well, apparently I don't even know what spectrum means. The rest is true though.  And it's not a case of being a sensitive snowflake btw. It applies to many senses. 

 

[Devil-Dick Willie]

I wouldn't want any of my fucking ex's at my fucking funeral. 
Ex's for a reason ain't we? 

[Azeem]

3 hours ago, Devil-Dick Willie said:

I wouldn't want any of my fucking ex's at my fucking funeral. 
Ex's for a reason ain't we? 

Worried they'll revenge eat your ashes ?

[Guest]

Planning to do the census. I get really anxious over things like this 

[Stan]

1 hour ago, Gunnersauraus said:

Planning to do the census. I get really anxious over things like this 

How come?

[Guest]

3 minutes ago, Stan said:

How come?

Things you have to do online and paper work make me anxious 

[Moon Monkey]

12 minutes ago, Gunnersauraus said:

Things you have to do online and paper work make me anxious 

Just pretend you're on here telling us all about yourself. 

[Whiskey]

4 hours ago, Gunnersauraus said:

Planning to do the census. I get really anxious over things like this 

My wife got excited about doing the census.

[Pugwash]

Census ? Haven't received any notification as yet but I've just read 'they' are wanting as many people as possible to do it online, bollox to that. Apparently the householder will be sent a letter with a unique access code to do it online but if you wish a paper copy you can phone for one.      

[Guest]

2 hours ago, Whiskey said:

My wife got excited about doing the census.

Once I start I'll be ok. I'm similar with online work training. Really makes me anxious 

[JoshBRFC+]

Had one of those emotional heart on your sleeve days today. But you know what?  That’s okay you loveable cunts  kind of thing I never used to admit.

As I’ve said before any of you can slide into my TF365 DMS for a chat about how down you are or even about Kyles Mom. I’ve been through both. X

 

This is what fixed my mental health. And the tiny thing will never know. 
 

https://www.instagram.com/p/CMcz4UUjN4_/?igshid=191l1ml5w6xaw

 

[Moon Monkey]

1 hour ago, Cazza said:

It's easy took me five minutes.

Now Cazza, are you sure you filled it in right?

[Devil-Dick Willie]

Having a child would ruin my mental health. I'd likely commit suicide. 

[Guest]

7 hours ago, Gunnersauraus said:

Things you have to do online and paper work make me anxious 

I have no idea why you would find that funny @Devil-Dick Willie?

[Guest]

On 29/03/2017 at 14:32, DeadLinesman said:

To be fair, I could have diagnosed him with obnoxious cunt disorder years ago.

Obnoxious bold cunt disorder more like 

[Devil-Dick Willie]

4 minutes ago, Gunnersauraus said:

I have no idea why you would find that funny @Devil-Dick Willie?

I apologize if I caused offence. I'm generally a very cruisy person and people getting worked up over small things has always amused me. 

It goes down like a lead balloon with girls I date too don't worry, 

[JoshBRFC+]

2 hours ago, Devil-Dick Willie said:

I apologize if I caused offence.

i don’t fully know the context of the last few posts but this instantly came to mind.

 

Sorry if it was a serious moment. But I’m stiffler and you’re the filthy maid  

 

[JoshBRFC+]

3 hours ago, Devil-Dick Willie said:

Having a child would ruin my mental health. I'd likely commit suicide. 

I’d never advise children to have children to be honest. 

Although I broke that mould. I’m a rarity  

[Devil-Dick Willie]

51 minutes ago, JoshBRFC said:

I’d never advise children to have children to be honest. 

Although I broke that mould. I’m a rarity  

You're absolutely right. 

However, you didn't break any moulds. Your child is going to grow up in a broken home and go through all that entails.