Dating, Relationships and Marriage Thread

[Spike]

We have around a 5% chance of conception.

[Toinho]

11 hours ago, Spike said:

We have around a 5% chance of conception.

Good luck mate x 

[Spike]

3 minutes ago, Toinho said:

Good luck mate x 

Yeah, it is not a nice feeling or conversation. Feels like a looming doom, I know it, she knows it, we both know each other is aware.

[Dan+]

If you're meant to be Rick it'll eventually happen. As cringey and cliche as it sounds.

[Spike]

On 04/06/2022 at 18:21, Devil-Dick Willie said:

I agree with deadlineboobie also. 


I had a nasty break up from my live in GF about 2 months ago now. I used to be really assertive and independent. Now that relationship has beaten some of the confidence and assertiveness out of me, and I really want another relationship. My independent side has been shattered it seems. I'd been having some casual sex recently but it's just not doing anything for me.  

That is because sex is gay and you are not gay. Simple as trust me bro,, i'm a scientist

[Devil-Dick Willie]

On 26/12/2018 at 20:36, Devil-Dick Willie said:

My lass pulled the plug, over the phone on her birthday.  What a monster. Was a couple of weeks back. She said she just wasn't that excited with the whole thing and had no idea if she wanted more or not, so would rather pull the plug then and there. I agreed and wished her all the best.

 

Found out Christmas day she basically cut me cos some younger handsome chap had come calling. Don't blame her at all, but fuck her for her dishonesty. Once this lad's done with her she better not come back my way. 

So I went back through my posts in this thread. Fuck I'm a loser. 

This is probably the best one though, as that girl has married and lives with the dude she left me for. Good on them she chose wisely! 

 

[Devil-Dick Willie]

On 19/08/2020 at 20:23, Devil-Dick Willie said:

This is frightening, I get all my signals from my cock being grabbed, or being followed around to the point of harassment. how do I read the actions of a person whos not outwardly trying to put her finger in my bum??? Send help. 

This is also still true. I struggle so badly with well put together women. I am only good at pairing up with crazies 

[Azeem]

9 hours ago, Devil-Dick Willie said:

This is also still true. I struggle so badly with well put together women. I am only good at pairing up with crazies 

Read Jordan Peterson

[Spike]

1 hour ago, Aladdin said:

Read Jordan Peterson

[Devil-Dick Willie]

That girl looks 16 spike. 

[Toinho]

8 hours ago, Spike said:

I don’t know what’s going on here. I’m sure she’s 18. 

[Spike]

3 minutes ago, Toinho said:

I don’t know what’s going on here. I’m sure she’s 18. 

 

1 hour ago, Devil-Dick Willie said:

That girl looks 16 spike. 

It's a pornstar ffs

[Devil-Dick Willie]

3 hours ago, Spike said:

 

It's a pornstar ffs

One I don't think I'd watch hahahaha.

[LFCMike]

So, some of you might have seen my comment in the Utd v Liverpool match thread.

Anyway, two weeks ago I found out that my finacee was cheating on me with one of my best mates. 

This is 6 months after we bought our first house together and 4 months after we got engaged.

Feels like a bad dream to be honest. 

I had suspicions for a couple of weeks before I found out but felt like I was going crazy.

A week before I confirmed my suspicions I saw a text to him that raised my suspicions even more but she denied it and wouldn't let me see the message I know I saw. Obviously I knew she was hiding something at that point. 

We had family and friends at ours on the Saturday after I'd seen that message and I tried to blank it out.

Anyway I confirmed my suspicions that night after she fell asleep and left her phone on my side of the bed and took pictures of the messages so I had proof this time. 

Obviously I've told her to get out and we're gonna have to sell the house. She's been quite amicable at the moment and keeps saying sorry but obviously I'm never gonna go back there.

Thankfully our whole friends group has fucked them both off, even the girl that she was maid of honour for.

Just a proper shit situation with the house but at least I've still got my mates and thankfully there's no kids involved. Once the house is sold I won't have to ever see her again.

[JoshBRFC+]

Holy shit @LFCMike. Always thought you were a decent guy and always enjoy your presence on here, sorry to hear that mate.

Sounds like you've handled it quite well. One thing i'll say is don't let it ruin you being happy in the future in the sense of not trusting others. I see it quite a lot and have been involved in flings myself where the other person puts me off as she's treating me based off cunts they've been with in the past, hence it ending up as a fling.

You'll get through it man, and i'm sure you'll find happiness with someone else again, but ultimately you have to be happy in yourself before that. And all due respect, by the sounds of it, you'll be happier without her in your life.

[LFCMike]

4 minutes ago, JoshBRFC said:

Holy shit @LFCMike. Always thought you were a decent guy and always enjoy your presence on here, sorry to hear that mate.

Sounds like you've handled it quite well. One thing i'll say is don't let it ruin you being happy in the future in the sense of not trusting others. I see it quite a lot and have been involved in flings myself where the other person puts me off as she's treating me based off cunts they've been with in the past, hence it ending up as a fling.

You'll get through it man, and i'm sure you'll find happiness with someone else again, but ultimately you have to be happy in yourself before that. And all due respect, by the sounds of it, you'll be happier without her in your life.

Cheers mate. I'll definitely be much happier once the house is sold. Might have to move back into my mum's for 12 months which feels like a step backwards at the moment but will give me a chance to save a bit for my own place.

[Bluewolf]

18 minutes ago, LFCMike said:

So, some of you might have seen my comment in the Utd v Liverpool match thread.

Anyway, two weeks ago I found out that my finacee was cheating on me with one of my best mates. 

This is 6 months after we bought our first house together and 4 months after we got engaged.

Feels like a bad dream to be honest. 

I had suspicions for a couple of weeks before I found out but felt like I was going crazy.

A week before I confirmed my suspicions I saw a text to him that raised my suspicions even more but she denied it and wouldn't let me see the message I know I saw. Obviously I knew she was hiding something at that point. 

We had family and friends at ours on the Saturday after I'd seen that message and I tried to blank it out.

Anyway I confirmed my suspicions that night after she fell asleep and left her phone on my side of the bed and took pictures of the messages so I had proof this time. 

Obviously I've told her to get out and we're gonna have to sell the house. She's been quite amicable at the moment and keeps saying sorry but obviously I'm never gonna go back there.

Thankfully our whole friends group has fucked them both off, even the girl that she was maid of honour for.

Just a proper shit situation with the house but at least I've still got my mates and thankfully there's no kids involved. Once the house is sold I won't have to ever see her again.

Sorry to hear about that mate... Not a lot I could say that you have not already said, clearly not ready to settle down is she?? shame you had to find that out after you got the house though... Is there no way you could keep the house?? I suppose financially it's out of reach for just one person.. Shame to see al that time and effort go to waste.. Once it's sold do you have somewhere to go? back to tour parents or a friend perhaps? 

[LFCMike]

4 minutes ago, Bluewolf said:

Sorry to hear about that mate... Not a lot I could say that you have not already said, clearly not ready to settle down is she?? shame you had to find that out after you got the house though... Is there no way you could keep the house?? I suppose financially it's out of reach for just one person.. Shame to see al that time and effort go to waste.. Once it's sold do you have somewhere to go? back to tour parents or a friend perhaps? 

I could afford it on my own but it would be struggle and would have no social life. Whether the lender would lend me what we borrowed together I'm not sure. But it's not really realistic anyway. I can go back to my mum's, she's happy to have me. So will just save as much as I can. We should make a profit on the house so that should give me a decent starting point but obviously there's the early repayment charge on the mortgage which will knock a bit off 

[Bluewolf]

2 minutes ago, LFCMike said:

I could afford it on my own but it would be struggle and would have no social life. Whether the lender would lend me what we borrowed together I'm not sure. But it's not really realistic anyway. I can go back to my mum's, she's happy to have me. So will just save as much as I can. We should make a profit on the house so that should give me a decent starting point but obviously there's the early repayment charge on the mortgage which will knock a bit off 

My eldest went through a similar situation almost but not the cheating part, they just grew apart with him being in the Forces so they called it a day, They were lucky because they had an initial loan which they managed to pay off and when they sold the house they managed to get about £20,000  each out of it after everything else was settled... He then met someone else a couple of years later, got married and they live in married quarters on his base which costs him £200 quid a week... between what he earns and her business she runs they are raking it in... They bought another property in Nottingham, did it up and sold that for a profit as well... Good luck to them..

Here's hoping you have better fortune soon mate.. 

[LFCMike]

1 minute ago, Bluewolf said:

My eldest went through a similar situation almost but not the cheating part, they just grew apart with him being in the Forces so they called it a day, They were lucky because they had an initial loan which they managed to pay off and when they sold the house they managed to get about £20,000  each out of it after everything else was settled... He then met someone else a couple of years later, got married and they live in married quarters on his base which costs him £200 quid a week... between what he earns and her business she runs they are raking it in... They bought another property in Nottingham, did it up and sold that for a profit as well... Good luck to them..

Here's hoping you have better fortune soon mate.. 

Unfortunately we won't get that much out of the house  we were first time buyers so put down the minimum 5% deposit. We should make a profit because we have done it up etc.

Good luck to her if she stays with him. He's a 30 year old man who can do fuck all for himself. I'd like to think I'm quite a good adult in terms of cooking, house work etc but he hasn't a clue

[Bluewolf]

1 minute ago, LFCMike said:

Unfortunately we won't get that much out of the house  we were first time buyers so put down the minimum 5% deposit. We should make a profit because we have done it up etc.

Good luck to her if she stays with him. He's a 30 year old man who can do fuck all for himself. I'd like to think I'm quite a good adult in terms of cooking, house work etc but he hasn't a clue

Just remember when she comes knocking saying how she has made a terrible mistake.... you know what to do.. 

[Devil-Dick Willie]

4 hours ago, LFCMike said:

Unfortunately we won't get that much out of the house  we were first time buyers so put down the minimum 5% deposit. We should make a profit because we have done it up etc.

Good luck to her if she stays with him. He's a 30 year old man who can do fuck all for himself. I'd like to think I'm quite a good adult in terms of cooking, house work etc but he hasn't a clue

These things do come back around to bite a lot of people too. All well and good being pretty or charming or whatever, but a real relationship is about spending your life with someone. There must be balance between feelings, novelty and practicality. 

[Stan]

10 hours ago, LFCMike said:

So, some of you might have seen my comment in the Utd v Liverpool match thread.

Anyway, two weeks ago I found out that my finacee was cheating on me with one of my best mates. 

This is 6 months after we bought our first house together and 4 months after we got engaged.

Feels like a bad dream to be honest. 

I had suspicions for a couple of weeks before I found out but felt like I was going crazy.

A week before I confirmed my suspicions I saw a text to him that raised my suspicions even more but she denied it and wouldn't let me see the message I know I saw. Obviously I knew she was hiding something at that point. 

We had family and friends at ours on the Saturday after I'd seen that message and I tried to blank it out.

Anyway I confirmed my suspicions that night after she fell asleep and left her phone on my side of the bed and took pictures of the messages so I had proof this time. 

Obviously I've told her to get out and we're gonna have to sell the house. She's been quite amicable at the moment and keeps saying sorry but obviously I'm never gonna go back there.

Thankfully our whole friends group has fucked them both off, even the girl that she was maid of honour for.

Just a proper shit situation with the house but at least I've still got my mates and thankfully there's no kids involved. Once the house is sold I won't have to ever see her again.

Sorry to hear this. Must be absolutely gutting considering the commitment you've only just recently got into in terms of the house. 

You're right about having your mates and it's almost a bonus they've fucked them both off too. It's good to have a support network like that at these times. 

Try not to see it as a step backwards going back to your mum's. Again that's a positive that you have somewhere to go away from an environment/place that could become toxic if you stayed there. But also it'll be good to be able to hopefully have a clear head and support in what could become a stressful situation when selling the house. 

But I wish you the best and her/your ex best mate not so much! Hope you get everything sorted. 

[RandoEFC+]

@LFCMike not much to add to what others have said other than you're better off without those two in your life and it's better you found out who she was now before things went even further or kids did potentially become a factor.

Hope you manage to get over it quickly and get all the messy house stuff sorted. Then you'll bounce back in no time.

[JoshBRFC+]

Suited and booted and went to a christening yesterday with very good intentions. And after focussing fully on work and blocking the other lifestyle out for months I ended up being a dirty stop out in a taxi home this morning at 8am. I need a cuddle and someone to cook for me right now . 
 

Bank holidays are lethal, hair of the dog?!