Devil-Dick Willie Posted February 9, 2021 Posted February 9, 2021 Haven't spoken to my mother in over 2 years and couldn't be happier.
Machado Posted February 10, 2021 Posted February 10, 2021 I only speak to one person in my family and that's my mother. Don't ask.
nudge Posted February 10, 2021 Posted February 10, 2021 Cut ties to most of the family almost ten years ago, the only thing I regret is not doing that earlier.
Subscriber CaaC (John)+ Posted February 10, 2021 Subscriber Posted February 10, 2021 Cut ties with my family over 20 years ago for personal reasons, the majority of them are in Australia, I now class the wife's side of the family as my family, life goes on and I am a happy chappie.
Carnivore Chris Posted February 10, 2021 Posted February 10, 2021 Our family (on my mother's side) used to be massively close, aunties, uncles, cousins...all like brothers and sisters but in the last 5 or so years, since my Nan passed away, there has only been one family party. That will change as soon as this covid shit is over. We need a big party, can't beat them. I was speaking to my cousin the other night and we were speaking about it. Family on my father's side are different. I'm close to my grandparents on that side and I get along with the rest of the family but they aren't the same. Only really one cousin on that side(our of 3) has ever really been someone I've been close to. On my mother's side I have about 15 cousins. Big, tight family.
Administrator Stan Posted February 12, 2021 Administrator Posted February 12, 2021 Anyone else just feel randomly low sometimes? Last few weeks been quite draining in terms of work volume and some changes at work. Then been trying to manage wedding stuff and trying to get things finalised - but the unknown of lockdown ending isn't helping.
DeadLinesman Posted February 12, 2021 Posted February 12, 2021 10 minutes ago, Stan said: Anyone else just feel randomly low sometimes? Last few weeks been quite draining in terms of work volume and some changes at work. Then been trying to manage wedding stuff and trying to get things finalised - but the unknown of lockdown ending isn't helping. Yeah mate; I think it’s only natural. Life simply isn’t the same as we’ve known it for as long as most of us have been on this planet. We’ve all been fortunate enough to grow up in a country with the freedom to do pretty much whatever we want. Now, you don’t have that option. It’s all the differences stresses as well. Yes, the stress of work can be annoying, but equally the stress of losing a job or being furloughed is tough. Take into account you’re planning a wedding when you have no idea who can and can’t be invited and you’ll be tearing your hair out.
Mpache Posted February 13, 2021 Posted February 13, 2021 I am finding that staying nocturnal helps my mental health a lot more temporarily. During the day I just feel down. It's probably due to high expectation, and I hate it. I hope I get over this soon.
Moderator Tommy Posted February 18, 2021 Moderator Posted February 18, 2021 So I've spoken to an ex-girlfriend of mine, who is a psychologist now. I always knew that there's something "wrong" with me, I just didn't know what it was. I just always knew that I'm different, and I acted strangely in many ways, and it "ruined" quite a few relationships, romantic and non-romantic for me. She strongly suspects that I'm highly sensitive. In the past it was also suspected that I could be on the autistic spectrum, which turned out to be wrong, but high sensitivity has many parralels to that. When I look at this list, every box is a hit for me: https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
Devil-Dick Willie Posted February 18, 2021 Posted February 18, 2021 5 hours ago, Tommy said: So I've spoken to an ex-girlfriend of mine, who is a psychologist now. I always knew that there's something "wrong" with me, I just didn't know what it was. I just always knew that I'm different, and I acted strangely in many ways, and it "ruined" quite a few relationships, romantic and non-romantic for me. She strongly suspects that I'm highly sensitive. In the past it was also suspected that I could be on the autistic spectrum, which turned out to be wrong, but high sensitivity has many parralels to that. When I look at this list, every box is a hit for me: https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ Everyone is on the autism spectrum. That's the nature of a spectrum.
Moderator Tommy Posted February 19, 2021 Moderator Posted February 19, 2021 7 hours ago, Devil-Dick Willie said: Everyone is on the autism spectrum. That's the nature of a spectrum. Yeah well, apparently I don't even know what spectrum means. The rest is true though. And it's not a case of being a sensitive snowflake btw. It applies to many senses.
Mpache Posted February 20, 2021 Posted February 20, 2021 My mental health has taken a turn for the worst. Something really bad happened on my birthday last week, and it resulted in me disconnecting from everything and getting away from everyone. These past few days I've just locked myself in my room playing nonstop Football Manager., And reflecting on unfair situations makes me feel worse than it should. It's triggering me. I don't know how to improve the situation. I'm talking to a therapist who has helped me before but I honestly feel there is no way back. I'm just too traumatized. I don't want to argue with anyone ever again, and I'm going to just let people push me around like they want to. I've accepted the failure that I am, but still hope I break out of this state at some point.
Machado Posted February 21, 2021 Posted February 21, 2021 On 18/02/2021 at 17:26, Tommy said: So I've spoken to an ex-girlfriend of mine, who is a psychologist now. I always knew that there's something "wrong" with me, I just didn't know what it was. I just always knew that I'm different, and I acted strangely in many ways, and it "ruined" quite a few relationships, romantic and non-romantic for me. She strongly suspects that I'm highly sensitive. In the past it was also suspected that I could be on the autistic spectrum, which turned out to be wrong, but high sensitivity has many parralels to that. When I look at this list, every box is a hit for me: https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ 13 ticks. Seems like I'm not a pussy but just barely.
Danny Posted February 21, 2021 Author Posted February 21, 2021 @Tommy not autism but me and the missus strongly suspect I’ve got ADHD which if true would explain so, so much about my life Need to get a diagnosis before I start Uni but we’re pretty certain, reads off like a tick list of my personality
Moderator Tommy Posted February 21, 2021 Moderator Posted February 21, 2021 7 hours ago, Danny said: @Tommy not autism but me and the missus strongly suspect I’ve got ADHD which if true would explain so, so much about my life Need to get a diagnosis before I start Uni but we’re pretty certain, reads off like a tick list of my personality Weird how something relatively "small" can explain so much, isn't it? Like I've always been extremely sensitive to smells and sounds. I can hear things before other people can hear them, or I can hear extremely high pitched noises that other people can't hear. Maybe I'm just half dog.
Subscriber Pyfish+ Posted February 21, 2021 Subscriber Posted February 21, 2021 12 ticks on that. Answered a few questions for me about my own state of mind. Always known there’s been something inside of me that isn’t quite ‘right’.
DeadLinesman Posted February 21, 2021 Posted February 21, 2021 On 18/02/2021 at 17:26, Tommy said: She strongly suspects that I'm highly sensitive. I could have told you that mate, and you haven’t even been inside me.
Administrator Stan Posted February 21, 2021 Administrator Posted February 21, 2021 I got 8. Not sure what that indicates...
Moderator Tommy Posted February 21, 2021 Moderator Posted February 21, 2021 30 minutes ago, Stan said: I got 8. Not sure what that indicates... It's not Lupus, that's for sure.
Administrator Stan Posted February 21, 2021 Administrator Posted February 21, 2021 1 minute ago, Tommy said: It's not Lupus, that's for sure.
Toinho Posted February 22, 2021 Posted February 22, 2021 Really don’t think an online quiz can assess or diagnose you.
Administrator Stan Posted February 22, 2021 Administrator Posted February 22, 2021 1 minute ago, Cazza said: Really? What about domestic abuse, sexual harassment and inequality? I don't think what @Carnivore Chris claims there totally negates the 3 things you mention. And knowing him (from here, anyway), it totally wouldn't be his intention or meaning to deny that any of those 3 happen.
DeadLinesman Posted February 22, 2021 Posted February 22, 2021 4 minutes ago, Cazza said: Really? What about domestic abuse, sexual harassment and inequality? Don’t think men really get that much domestic abuse, sexual harassment or inequality to be fair.
Administrator Stan Posted February 22, 2021 Administrator Posted February 22, 2021 Just now, Cazza said: Women are not the cause of mental health on men but being in a bad relationship can be a matter of cause, I think he is having a laugh at the blood sucking nature of some women but You would never know how it feels to walk into a pub and have everyone stare at your tits and get on your case.... I just want to have a quiet drink with my friends and have you 'think' you can improve my circumstances. Generally speaking, but most guys are cool. My moobs would beg to differ.
Spike Posted February 23, 2021 Posted February 23, 2021 Today I found the letter that was given to my mrs when she went to her ex’s funeral. That in itself isn’t anything upsetting to me but the hypocrisy of it all really cuts me up, and it reminds me of my grandfather’s funeral. People that had left his life, family members estranged, show up for it. I hate it I hate I hate it, they don’t deserve to be here for him in death because they didn’t share his life when it mattered, not even a phone call, and my mrs did the same thing to someone, it infuriates me people can be so selfish that they can show up for a funeral so they can pat themselves kn the back with their empathy, but they werent so loving nor empathetic in life. It makes me sick thinking of people showing up to my funeral as if they cared about me, it makes me project that resentment, held together for nearly half of my life onto my wife because she is the closest person, despite the fact she didnt really do anything wrong, because of how convicted i feel on this subject. I never feel so alone, angry, and sad as I do when I think of this
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