Turning 40

[UNIQUE]

hows it hanging lads. i see this thread is still going strong. 

[Devil]

Just now, UNIQUE said:

hows it hanging lads. i see this thread is still going strong. 

I'm not 40 yet, it gets closed when the day passes. 

[Michael]

On 23/02/2021 at 17:45, Devil said:

So this coming November I'm about to turn 40, not sure how it happened and I don't feel anything like a 40 year old but it's a reality I've got to somehow accept.

Gone are the days I could go out on the piss with my mates and go in a bar full of younger people and feel like I don't stand out like a sore thumb.

Also I think the days where I could catch a young women looking at me and know she liked me are gone, I suspect they now think what's that old git looking at.

It's all down hill from here on in, how old is everyone else on the forum and is it true?

Does life really start at 40 or is that just a made up saying to make old bast*rds feel better about themselves. 

How is someone supposed to feel at 40? You are not old and you are not even middle aged yet by most accounts. I am a few years younger than you, but I wouldn't consider you old. I mean if you want to look at things as pragmatically as possible, then you are not really old until you hit your sixties. Of course from a physical aspect, this can differ from person to person due to how well they have looked after themselves and whether they have good genes or not. I have known people in their late 20's who could have passed for 50, while at the same time I know other people close to 50 who could pass as being in their late 20's. On a superficial level, from what I have observed, many people can preserve decent looks through their 50's, but once they reach their 60's, it seems like most look old. But hey, that is something that we will all face, so we just have to take that in our stride.

Of course we are all aware of small changes as we age. But with me in my 30's, the main difference I have noticed is with my knees. They are definitely not as flexible as they used to be. Physically my face has matured, but I don't notice a huge difference to now compared to when I was in my late 20's. On a couple of occasions last year when I went out, both in the UK and in Ukraine, I got socialising and talking to some decent looking women in their early 20's. A couple of whom I could tell were showing genuine interest and who thought I was younger than I really was. Of course nothing came out of it, because I am already in a happy relationship. I mean, I've seen some of your photos on another thread and you don't look old at all. I've been told by several older people that the best years of their lives was when they were in their 40's and 50's. Of course that's just their own personal accounts, but it does put things into perspective. Point being, you've still got a hell of a lot of your best years ahead of you, so there's no need to worry about old age any time soon and when that point does arrive in about 20 years, embrace it and accept it. Just try to avoid junk food, drugs and drinking too much, all things that someone I know has regularly indulged in and at 29, the poor bugger already looks twice his age. 

[MUFC]

On 23/02/2021 at 15:45, Devil said:

So this coming November I'm about to turn 40, not sure how it happened and I don't feel anything like a 40 year old but it's a reality I've got to somehow accept.

Gone are the days I could go out on the piss with my mates and go in a bar full of younger people and feel like I don't stand out like a sore thumb.

Also I think the days where I could catch a young women looking at me and know she liked me are gone, I suspect they now think what's that old git looking at.

It's all down hill from here on in, how old is everyone else on the forum and is it true?

Does life really start at 40 or is that just a made up saying to make old bast*rds feel better about themselves. 

Not long buddy.

[MUFC]

On 06/03/2021 at 04:02, Michael said:

How is someone supposed to feel at 40? You are not old and you are not even middle aged yet by most accounts. I am a few years younger than you, but I wouldn't consider you old. I mean if you want to look at things as pragmatically as possible, then you are not really old until you hit your sixties. Of course from a physical aspect, this can differ from person to person due to how well they have looked after themselves and whether they have good genes or not. I have known people in their late 20's who could have passed for 50, while at the same time I know other people close to 50 who could pass as being in their late 20's. On a superficial level, from what I have observed, many people can preserve decent looks through their 50's, but once they reach their 60's, it seems like most look old. But hey, that is something that we will all face, so we just have to take that in our stride.

Of course we are all aware of small changes as we age. But with me in my 30's, the main difference I have noticed is with my knees. They are definitely not as flexible as they used to be. Physically my face has matured, but I don't notice a huge difference to now compared to when I was in my late 20's. On a couple of occasions last year when I went out, both in the UK and in Ukraine, I got socialising and talking to some decent looking women in their early 20's. A couple of whom I could tell were showing genuine interest and who thought I was younger than I really was. Of course nothing came out of it, because I am already in a happy relationship. I mean, I've seen some of your photos on another thread and you don't look old at all. I've been told by several older people that the best years of their lives was when they were in their 40's and 50's. Of course that's just their own personal accounts, but it does put things into perspective. Point being, you've still got a hell of a lot of your best years ahead of you, so there's no need to worry about old age any time soon and when that point does arrive in about 20 years, embrace it and accept it. Just try to avoid junk food, drugs and drinking too much, all things that someone I know has regularly indulged in and at 29, the poor bugger already looks twice his age. 

Just tell us all the truth, we'll keep it on this board.

[Devil]

1 hour ago, MUFC said:

Not long buddy.

Nope it's creeping up on me slowly but surely. 

[MUFC]

20 minutes ago, Devil said:

Nope it's creeping up on me slowly but surely. 

Been there mate, am 42. You'll just want the day over and dusted

[Devil]

5 minutes ago, MUFC said:

Been there mate, am 42. You'll just want the day over and dusted

Strict instructions in our house, no parties.

Hate the idea of a party. 

[Carnivore Chris]

Turning 30 was horrible and at 35 I still can't get over it now, so fuck the 40 mark

[Devil]

22 minutes ago, Carnivore Chris said:

Turning 30 was horrible and at 35 I still can't get over it now, so fuck the 40 mark

The build up to 30 was a worse feeling than this feels now, you are still considered part of the younger generation in your 20's so it hit me like a ton of bricks. 

It's all down here from this point for me.

[CaaC (John)+]

40 minutes ago, Carnivore Chris said:

Turning 30 was horrible and at 35 I still can't get over it now, so fuck the 40 mark

Wait until you retire (if you are working), I reached the big 65' in 2014 and I said to my co-manager at the time I want a quiet retirement at work, a few handshakes and goodbyes and a walk out of the building...no fucking chance.

I was downstairs in my manager's office clearing up a few things on the works computer and I had already said goodbye to my security team and a few people in the building and got a phone call saying I was needed upstairs as there was a problem with one of the cooling systems in an empty office so I headed upstairs walked into what I thought was an empty office and was greeted with something similar as this...

The bastard (co-manager) had planned this all week with the security team and others, so I then ended up in a pub for a few, staggered into a taxi with retirement gifts plus booze galore (a load of bottles of whisky, etc), came home and cracked a few more bottles of wine with the wife, son & daughter, then, later on, went to bed pissed as a newt!!!!   

[MUFC]

3 hours ago, Carnivore Chris said:

Turning 30 was horrible and at 35 I still can't get over it now, so fuck the 40 mark

Any pics of you on your 30th?

[MUFC]

2 hours ago, Devil said:

The build up to 30 was a worse feeling than this feels now, you are still considered part of the younger generation in your 20's so it hit me like a ton of bricks. 

It's all down here from this point for me.

30th was much harder than 40th. 30th believe it or not, I was confused most of the day. Was like a feeling of what the fucking is going on?

[Stan]

33 minutes ago, MUFC said:

Any pics of you on your 30th?

@Carnivore Chris

 

[Mel81x+]

40 turned out to be just as i expected. Day long BBQ, drinks, a pool, some gifts and lots of laughs. I think you'll be just fine. The key is to not overthink that just ruins everything.

[nudge+]

5 minutes ago, Mel81x said:

40 turned out to be just as i expected. Day long BBQ, drinks, a pool, some gifts and lots of laughs. I think you'll be just fine. The key is to not overthink that just ruins everything.

Happy belated birthday!

In all honesty, I don't understand why some people get so obsessed with their age and constantly worry about getting older. 

[Stan]

20 minutes ago, Mel81x said:

40 turned out to be just as i expected. Day long BBQ, drinks, a pool, some gifts and lots of laughs. I think you'll be just fine. The key is to not overthink that just ruins everything.

Happy belated birthday! 

11 minutes ago, nudge said:

Happy belated birthday!

In all honesty, I don't understand why some people get so obsessed with their age and constantly worry about getting older. 

Societal influences and culture! 

The pressures of having to do stuff before you reach a certain age and milestone has been around for decades, generations even. Having said that, I've noticed that for people of my generation, it's harder to do and that's mainly because of financial constraints. The ability to just earn and save for house/wedding/future and still be able to spend just isn't there any more because of the cost of living, renting, owning is just super high. 

Personally I'm glad I'm not faced with any disdain or anything similar from my family for not getting married or having kids by a certain age. Back in the day in perhaps my parents' era I might have but gladly not any more. Some of my friends are in similar situations too. There's definitely a huge divide between the rich and poor but that's another story for a another day. I'm more about being rich in health and happiness than size of bank balance

[nudge+]

5 minutes ago, Stan said:

Societal influences and culture! 

The pressures of having to do stuff before you reach a certain age and milestone has been around for decades, generations even. Having said that, I've noticed that for people of my generation, it's harder to do and that's mainly because of financial constraints. The ability to just earn and save for house/wedding/future and still be able to spend just isn't there any more because of the cost of living, renting, owning is just super high. 

Personally I'm glad I'm not faced with any disdain or anything similar from my family for not getting married or having kids by a certain age. Back in the day in perhaps my parents' era I might have but gladly not any more. Some of my friends are in similar situations too. There's definitely a huge divide between the rich and poor but that's another story for a another day. I'm more about being rich in health and happiness than size of bank balance

Some fair points, but I was mostly refering to people who are first and foremost preoccupied with the number itself, and say they feel bad about turning [insert age here], as if there's some arbitrary age limit from where one's life just starts spiraling down. Just doesn't really make sense to me... Is this just another expression of mortality salience that causes some sort of existential anxiety? Yes, everyone gets old and gets past their peak in physical terms, but surely what matters is that you're (relatively) healthy, can support yourself, are satisfied with what you've done with your life so far and your current situation, and just enjoy life?... 

[Stan]

4 minutes ago, nudge said:

Some fair points, but I was mostly refering to people who are first and foremost preoccupied with the number itself, and say they feel bad about turning [insert age here], as if there's some arbitrary age limit from where one's life just starts spiraling down. Just doesn't really make sense to me... Is this just another expression of mortality salience that causes some sort of existential anxiety? Yes, everyone gets old and gets past their peak in physical terms, but surely what matters is that you're (relatively) healthy, can support yourself, are satisfied with what you've done with your life so far and your current situation, and just enjoy life?... 

Yeah I realise I rambled on a bit there, unlike me

It's just a clichéd generational thing though. 20s is when you have your fun, 30s is when you settle down and then 'life begins at 40' are all the generalisations you hear in various places. 

I agree with all of that you say, especially the latter bits. Pre-empting what someone should and shouldn't have done by a certain age with a blanket 'do this by this age' doesn't take in to account all the other barriers in life that affect every single one of us but are also quite private or personal. As long as that individual is happy where they are and what they've done, or are on the way to what they want to do, then that's their business and no-one elses! 

[Devil]

1 hour ago, nudge said:

Happy belated birthday!

In all honesty, I don't understand why some people get so obsessed with their age and constantly worry about getting older. 

Maybe because it's one more year closer to death

And you start looking old. 

And you start not being able to do the things you could as a younger man/women. 

The other day I was at a park with my daughter and we had a frisby, she threw it over a small fence and I ran towards the fence and was about to hurdle it. It was only just before I was about to jump I realised my body couldn't do it anymore, so I stopped myself and walked down to where there was a gate further down.

[Bluewolf]

2 hours ago, Mel81x said:

40 turned out to be just as i expected. Day long BBQ, drinks, a pool, some gifts and lots of laughs. I think you'll be just fine. The key is to not overthink that just ruins everything.

Happy Belated Birthday mate.. 

25 minutes ago, Devil said:

The other day I was at a park with my daughter and we had a frisby, she threw it over a small fence and I ran towards the fence and was about to hurdle it. It was only just before I was about to jump I realised my body couldn't do it anymore, so I stopped myself and walked down to where there was a gate further down.

 Wait until you get the bottom half collapse like @DeadLinesman and me... You won't know when it's coming it just hits like a hammer and then you realize it's game over... For me my mind is still in my mid 20's and when I watch films like John Wick I think to myself I could knock a few of them blokes out myself no problem! Next thing you are huffing and puffing just because you need to move a wardrobe from one side of the room to the other and the old body is saying "steady on silly fucker, what you doing??" 

Once you start clutching at your back or saying things like "Ohhh me knees" every time you get up from laying a bit of carpet you know the downhill slope is going to be a rough one.. 

[Toinho]

34 minutes ago, Devil said:

Maybe because it's one more year closer to death

And you start looking old. 

And you start not being able to do the things you could as a younger man/women. 

The other day I was at a park with my daughter and we had a frisby, she threw it over a small fence and I ran towards the fence and was about to hurdle it. It was only just before I was about to jump I realised my body couldn't do it anymore, so I stopped myself and walked down to where there was a gate further down.

I’m starting to feel my body’s limitations and I’m only early 30s! 

[Devil]

1 hour ago, Toinho said:

I’m starting to feel my body’s limitations and I’m only early 30s! 

Crazy how it creeps up on you, I'm still pretty fit though to be fair, I run most nights and I hike often. 

But I can't do too much now otherwise I'm like tin man for days. 

[DeadLinesman]

1 hour ago, Bluewolf said:

Happy Belated Birthday mate.. 

 Wait until you get the bottom half collapse like @DeadLinesman and me... You won't know when it's coming it just hits like a hammer and then you realize it's game over... For me my mind is still in my mid 20's and when I watch films like John Wick I think to myself I could knock a few of them blokes out myself no problem! Next thing you are huffing and puffing just because you need to move a wardrobe from one side of the room to the other and the old body is saying "steady on silly fucker, what you doing??" 

Once you start clutching at your back or saying things like "Ohhh me knees" every time you get up from laying a bit of carpet you know the downhill slope is going to be a rough one.. 

I’m 37 you cheeky cunt.

[Dr. Gonzo]

3 hours ago, nudge said:

Happy belated birthday!

In all honesty, I don't understand why some people get so obsessed with their age and constantly worry about getting older. 

Idk if it's because I was hit by a car at some point and have some screws holding my skeleton together... but I remember a time not too long ago where my hangovers weren't trying to kill me and I could wake up without feeling weird body pains.