Dating, Relationships and Marriage Thread

[Viva la FCB+]

When I was dating around i think it depended on how things went whether or not Id paid for the full thing. I had a couple train wreck dates where I just paid for myself and carried on, had a few that where fine but there just wasn't any chemistry but they where nice and polite; in those cases I picked up the tabs.

In the longterm ive been with my fiance now for 7 years we basically just take turns paying for dinners out. Unless we go for the fancy one once in awhile in which case we'll split. I did pay early on for the first few dates and as we got comfortable she made a point of saying she wanted to pay to and that was that. 

As far as opening doors ive always done that, just seems like the polite gentlemanly thing to do. Walking them to their doors seems like the same thing really.

[Waylander]

Dating for 7 years is a long time, some believe in relationship cycles of 7 years. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_seven-year_itch

I'm similar with courtesy when dating women, opening car doors and paying for the meal.

I always pay if I asked someone out though very occasionally we go Dutch for the second meal though normally I pay. I normally offer if I have the better job and usually have.

 

[nudge+]

8 minutes ago, Devil said:

The highlighted point would defo be a clear sign she wasn't interested if I think I was dating now.

I'd 100% never expect a women to go 50/50 as I'd be far to embarrassed to expect it as to me its one of life's givens that a man pay for the first dates meal or activities.

In terms of how forward a man should be on a first date would you say it's off putting if a man is too forward on a first date?

By this I mean being touchy or attempting a kiss in public?

Or does it depend on how attractive he is to you?

Oh, it really depends. Personally, the majority of men I dated or got into relationship with were not complete strangers; I almost always knew them before already - either through school, uni, work, mutual friends or mutual activities, etc. So for me it was perfectly fine if they were a bit touchy, as long as they're not attempting a full on makeout session in public  Now if it was a fella I just met once or twice and he's going for a kiss in public on the very first date, I think it could be a bit awkward. Then again, it depends a lot on the situation and circumstances, every date and every person is different. Call me old-fashioned if you wish, but I like to get to know someone a bit before things get heated. As for attractiveness as a factor - well I probably wouldn't be going on a date with a man if I didn't find him attractive in the first place...  

 

[Dr. Gonzo]

25 minutes ago, Viva la FCB said:

When I was dating around i think it depended on how things went whether or not Id paid for the full thing. I had a couple train wreck dates where I just paid for myself and carried on, had a few that where fine but there just wasn't any chemistry but they where nice and polite; in those cases I picked up the tabs.

In the longterm ive been with my fiance now for 7 years we basically just take turns paying for dinners out. Unless we go for the fancy one once in awhile in which case we'll split. I did pay early on for the first few dates and as we got comfortable she made a point of saying she wanted to pay to and that was that. 

As far as opening doors ive always done that, just seems like the polite gentlemanly thing to do. Walking them to their doors seems like the same thing really.

This answer's basically the same as mine

[Bluewolf]

22 minutes ago, Devil said:

In terms of how forward a man should be on a first date would you say it's off putting if a man is too forward on a first date?

By this I mean being touchy or attempting a kiss in public?

I do have a few no no's... I don't mind a woman been affectionate if she feels like it, like wanting to hold onto your arm/hand when out or snuggling up in the cinema as I take that as a positive sign that they are comfortable enough around me to want to do that.. I do not like noisy/loud women especially if you are trying to have a quiet evening meal somewhere fancy, being yourself and relaxing is important but not if you are so loud you are ruining it for everyone else..  I also don't like women that swear constantly or talk so much you can't get a word in edgeways.. 

[Devil]

1 hour ago, Bluewolf said:

I do have a few no no's... I don't mind a woman been affectionate if she feels like it, like wanting to hold onto your arm/hand when out or snuggling up in the cinema as I take that as a positive sign that they are comfortable enough around me to want to do that.. I do not like noisy/loud women especially if you are trying to have a quiet evening meal somewhere fancy, being yourself and relaxing is important but not if you are so loud you are ruining it for everyone else..  I also don't like women that swear constantly or talk so much you can't get a word in edgeways.. 

Swings both ways that though doesn't it. Some women like confident outgoing men and then some women like the more chilled quiet man.

I personally don't like loud women, they annoy me. I've always had good friendships with women at work etc.. but I wouldn't have a relationship with a women who was loud and basically too much.

[nudge+]

I can't stand loud people full stop. Relationship or not  

[Devil]

1 hour ago, nudge said:

Oh, it really depends. Personally, the majority of men I dated or got into relationship with were not complete strangers; I almost always knew them before already - either through school, uni, work, mutual friends or mutual activities, etc. So for me it was perfectly fine if they were a bit touchy, as long as they're not attempting a full on makeout session in public  Now if it was a fella I just met once or twice and he's going for a kiss in public on the very first date, I think it could be a bit awkward. Then again, it depends a lot on the situation and circumstances, every date and every person is different. Call me old-fashioned if you wish, but I like to get to know someone a bit before things get heated. As for attractiveness as a factor - well I probably wouldn't be going on a date with a man if I didn't find him attractive in the first place...  

 

Very true but given most women say it's more about personality (bollocks) than looks I thought it worth an ask. 

It's got to be the whole package for me, I think I was pretty lucky looks wise so I didn't have the struggles other lads had but I'd still hold my standards regardless.

[Azeem]

It's all about cash. I see hairy bald men with extremely good looking women in fancy cars all the time. 

[Tommy]

8 minutes ago, nudge said:

I can't stand loud people full stop. Relationship or not  

This is the way!

[Eco]

How and what to do on a date is a mix of numerous factors. First, you need to relax and be yourself and sure that you are listening as much or more than you are talking. Secondly, you need to learn to read the room and mood of the date. Obviously, if you are getting great vibes and the connection is strong, then a kiss might be something to pursue. If you notice that she is hesitant, then hold off. 

Don't rush things and don't just focus on yourself. 

I remember back in my dating days, I had a few tricks and tactics I used on dates to spur the conversation in a unique fashion. Questions and topics of conversations that would be a mix of intelligence and humor, and if the girl didn't respond with a bit of both, that was usually a sign that it wasn't going to work out. Those two things, humor and intelligence, are so important for me, that I found ways to determine in blind dates (and ones with girls I barely knew) whether or not it would work for me on those two levels. 

I also had a few 'hard no's' when dating, and I think that is just as important to learn about yourself as learning what you like and want. Women who were big obsessed with social media, loud, spoke bad (in a gossip way) about people, women who wore too much makeup, and only spoke in 'Shit, Fucks, and Damns', were a hard no. There was some others but I doubt you all give two shits about my dating life. 

[Devil-Dick Willie]

On 27/07/2021 at 10:43, Eco said:

Yeah, earlier last year we were starting divorce proceedings, but ultimately reconciled. 

The problem, is that ever since having a child, my wife's hormones and other things have just been off. She will be the first to admit that she isn't normal, and that her emotions are highly irregular, and that she seriously struggles to be happy. 

The other day, she called me while driving to work, and was just very emotional, and in her haste, said some things that got me rather worried. Since she has calmed down, she has agreed to see a new mental health professional in an attempt to figure out what is going on. 

So I just stumbled across all this mate, how old is your wife? Bi Polar disorder comes on generally in the mid to late 20s/early 30s. If your wife is in that age bracket it's certainly a possibility. 

I also notice it's been all quiet on the @ROBBIEFC front 

[Eco]

Just now, Devil-Dick Willie said:

So I just stumbled across all this mate, how old is your wife? Bi Polar disorder comes on generally in the mid to late 20s/early 30s. If your wife is in that age bracket it's certainly a possibility. 

I also notice it's been all quiet on the @ROBBIEFC front 

Yeah - so my wife is 30. 

To be honest, everything about her has changed since we had our daughter. It was a rough pregnancy, and her hormones since have been all out of whack. She knows this and we've seen specialists so we are trying to find an answer. 

It's been difficult AF at times, more so than most relationships I think, but I just feel an immense about of guilt trying to proceed with a divorce and focus on myself when we have a kid AND she's really trying to find an answer to something she has no control over. Just shitty all around really. 

Luckily, her brief, EXTREME obsession with religion went away and she is back to normal in that regard. But still shit a majority of the time but I'm getting used to it and trying to continuously telling myself it isn't really her. 

[Eco]

Also, and I'm sure I mentioned this in the past, her Mother (whom I never met) has a lot of addiction issue with some mentally instability, so bi-polar and other mental illnesses have certainly crossed my mind. 

[Devil-Dick Willie]

Definitely try to get her in touch with a psychiatrist 

[ROBBIEFC]

1 hour ago, Devil-Dick Willie said:

So I just stumbled across all this mate, how old is your wife? Bi Polar disorder comes on generally in the mid to late 20s/early 30s. If your wife is in that age bracket it's certainly a possibility. 

I also notice it's been all quiet on the @ROBBIEFC front 

I'll drop an update in here after I get some sleep! It's going to be a long one! 

I've just had the week off on all fronts though mate, as I finished my Masters degree last Friday!

[Stan]

6 hours ago, ROBBIEFC said:

I'll drop an update in here after I get some sleep! It's going to be a long one! 

I've just had the week off on all fronts though mate, as I finished my Masters degree last Friday!

Congrats on finishing the Masters! 

 

[JoshBRFC+]

9 hours ago, Tommy said:

This is the way!

I echo you both. Talk to me not the fucking people in the pub across the road. 
 

[JoshBRFC+]

For anyone who’s single and wants to meet someone, forget Tinder. 

Go on Facebook marketplace, search for wedding dresses and you’ll come across recently divorced women wanting a rebound. And you can filter by size to your acquired taste.   

[Happy Blue]

Point 1) split the bill 50/50 if it's a first date. women don't want a push over, they want a man they can respect, make them work for you, they enjoy the chase so let them chase, never reveal how you feel about them too soon so go easy on the complements and don't act thirsty, keep them guessing if you like them and remain mysterious, don't spill your whole life story on the first date. make them laugh, even take the piss out of them a tiny bit 

Point 2) Yes, open doors and stuff for them, manners costs nothing. if you are walking make her feel safe by letting them walk on the safest side etc

Point 3) Yes, quick text or call to see if they got home safe, or drop them off after breakfast lol

If all this fails there are 3 little words guaranteed  to make any women crazy about you .."national lottery winner" 

[ROBBIEFC]

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[Whiskey]

Aiming for a threesome then @ROBBIEFC?

[ROBBIEFC]

On 07/09/2021 at 18:25, Whiskey said:

Aiming for a threesome then @ROBBIEFC?

Not at all pal! Been there and done that in the past, but that wasn't planned and happened during a one-night stand type of thing. I'm not interested in her friends in that way.

[MUFC]

The married members. Did any of you splash out big on your wedding? Some seriously go overboard.

[Whiskey]

1 minute ago, MUFC said:

The married members. Did any of you splash out big on your wedding? Some seriously go overboard.

No expense spared in the sense of I wanted the wedding to be the best day of our lives and everything the wife dreamed of, but as we're both lucky to not be fucking idiots didn't spend £10,000 on napkins.